50 First Dates….the theme of my week!

I have been sharing my experiences with online dating starting with Are Book Boyfriends Dangerous to your Dating Life?, which brings me to this post. A great movie came out in 2004 starring Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler called 50 First Dates. If you have not watched it, I highly recommend it. The movie is about Henry Roth (Adam Sandler) is a man afraid of commitment up until he meets the beautiful Lucy (Drew Barrymore). They hit it off and Henry think he’s finally found the girl of his dreams, until he discovers she has short-term memory loss and forgets him the next day. So every day he has to win her over and get a first date, which brings me to my week of my own 50 First Dates.

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For a girl that initially loathes first dates, I started looking at online dating with a different perspective and started using the tips and techniques I have learned in the books, Men Don’t Love Women Like You by G.L. Lambert and Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov (My book review will be coming soon!), and I am actually starting to enjoy this process.

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Since I already know that I am the bomb diggity and one hell of a catch, I don’t need to prove myself to any man but he needs to prove himself Wanda Worthy, which is no easy task!  The process starts like this: we start with the initial chat stage on the site, moving then to exchange of numbers, phone conversation and the planning of a “meet and greet”.

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A “meet and greet” is where we just initially meet, check for chemistry and then I decide if he is “Wanda Worthy” for an official first date. Meet and greets always happen in public places, I always drive myself and are limited to ninety minutes. As a single working mom with older kids that can stay home alone, this allows me to utilize my babysitter for longer subsequent dates. Win, Win!!!!

It is amazing what you can tell by a man just by what he choses for the first initial meet and greet. I have experienced the following acceptable meets:  the walk the river, the adult beverage bar, and the coffeehouse meet. That brings us to the “You just got your a$$ deleted” meets: the come by my house, the I will come over to your house, and the where can we have sex meet. Deleted, end of story.

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On the walk the river meet, we had Allen the Aviator. He was age appropriate, no kids, and retired from the military. Great conversation but was very Type A so I passed on him.

On the coffeehouse meet, we had Fabio the Floor Guy. He was age appropriate, no kids, Romanian with a sexy European accent, very attractive but he eventually wanted kids so I passed on him. Side note: Had I been in the market for a little bedroom fun, he would have been my choice!! 

Lastly,  the adult beverage bar meet with Coach Carter. He was age appropriate, has kids, employed, very attractive, and I actually liked this guy. We went out on three different times. Dates with him were different, they were natural, playful and FUN. I could be my silly self just so I could hear his adorable laugh and he was happy to oblige. But what did I do? I’ll tell you what I did! I got scared of being rejected and I pushed him away. Yes, I did. I let my fear of rejection control me.

WHY!?!? WHY?!? WHY!?!

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With that major slip up, I must go on and the search continues with tonight’s next meet and greet.

I can already hear RuPaul in my head…..

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Until Next Time!!!!!

XOXOXOXOOXOXOXOOXO

Men Don’t Love Women Like You by G.L. Lambert Book Review

I have been having a great time with online dating as per my previous post, Is Romance only in Books? Where have all the good men gone?  so I thought I would do a book review on a book that I read called  Men Don’t Love Women Like You: The Brutal Truth about Dating, Relationships, and How to Go from Placeholder to Game Changer by G.L. Lambert.

Here is a partial summary of the book taken from Amazon.com, if this does not grab your attention…….

Men Don t Love Women Like You, is a brutally honest manual that will transform you from typical to priceless. The secrets in this book will guide you step by step as you learn what men think, how to counter their Bullsh*t, and the exact ways to turn the table in your favor. No matter who the man is, how young, old, rich, or popular he may be, this book will show you how to attain power over him. From the first meeting to the first date. From a new relationship hitting its first bump to an old relationship on its last legs. You will learn to dominate men in ways you never dreamed of. You will become what you were always meant to be A Goddess in the flesh.

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Now, this book appealed to me because I am a straight forward, tell it like it is, not going to sugar coat it kind of girl. So this book was right up my alley according to the summary of the book on Amazon. Now mind you, I am not young so I have been to the circus and have seen the show so I was not expecting this book to teach me anything I did not already know, but was I WRONG!!!

The book is basically divided into two sections: the first being get your own sh!t straight before dating. Be honest with yourself and your issues, stop blaming your problems on your parents, your friends, the mailman, etc, really work through your past, comes to terms and move on empowered. Now, I am a true believer in this process and I have done the work on myself but it was nice to have a reminder and the opportunity to touch base again. This section is very helpful in how to go through that process.

The second section of the book is where the party gets started and explains how to be a “Goddess in the flesh”, how to date in “Sparta”, with the benefit of a man’s point of view, which I found very beneficial. You learn how specifically the first and second dates should go, how to be a game changer and to always put yourself before any man.

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Overall, the book provides great insight to the male mind during the dating process, how to date smart and to get what you really want in a relationship long term. This book would be a great read at any age, especially if you are wanting a long term relationship. I also recommend reading this book slowly and reading it more than once. It is worth it! For the love, please don’t ever sleep with a man on the first date!!!

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I purchased this book from Amazon and it can be found here.

P.S.  Wish my luck on my first date tonight using what I learned in this book!! Update to follow!!!!

Until Next Time!!!

XOXOXOOXOXOXOXO

My Review of It’s A Match! A Guide To Finding Lasting Love by Natalie Moore, MsEd, MFT, ChT,

unnamedKeeping with my theme from the last book I reviewed, this is another different read and book review for me. However, I will admit that after my divorce a few years ago, I did read a lot of these types of books.

MY REVIEW

What I liked about this book is that is it written by someone with credentials. Ms. Moore has a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and is also a successful relationship coach. In her book, Ms. Moore talks about the “4 Levels of Love”, Different Relationship Levels, and how to find a, Level III or Level IV, lasting satisfying relationship.It also teaches how to deal with your emotional baggage first before pursuing another relationship. The author also provides a lot of helpful information for online dating and how to set up your profile, things to say/do, and things to look for that are red flags. An added bonus with Ms. Moore’s book is that she just does not stop at once you have met a potential partner, but goes further with reiterating what you are taught in the beginning of the book once you have meet someone.

I would recommend this book to anyone that is looking for a new relationship, or even just starting a new relationship, as well.

You can get a copy from Amazon It’s a Match! The Guide to Finding Lasting Love. Subscribers to Amazon Unlimited can read it for free.

I give it 3 out of 4 cupids.

Thank you to Word Slinger Publicity for provided me with a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.