I have been sharing my experiences with online dating starting with Are Book Boyfriends Dangerous to your Dating Life?, which brings me to this post. A great movie came out in 2004 starring Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler called 50 First Dates. If you have not watched it, I highly recommend it. The movie is about Henry Roth (Adam Sandler) is a man afraid of commitment up until he meets the beautiful Lucy (Drew Barrymore). They hit it off and Henry think he’s finally found the girl of his dreams, until he discovers she has short-term memory loss and forgets him the next day. So every day he has to win her over and get a first date, which brings me to my week of my own 50 First Dates.
For a girl that initially loathes first dates, I started looking at online dating with a different perspective and started using the tips and techniques I have learned in the books, Men Don’t Love Women Like You by G.L. Lambert and Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov (My book review will be coming soon!), and I am actually starting to enjoy this process.
Since I already know that I am the bomb diggity and one hell of a catch, I don’t need to prove myself to any man but he needs to prove himself Wanda Worthy, which is no easy task! The process starts like this: we start with the initial chat stage on the site, moving then to exchange of numbers, phone conversation and the planning of a “meet and greet”.
A “meet and greet” is where we just initially meet, check for chemistry and then I decide if he is “Wanda Worthy” for an official first date. Meet and greets always happen in public places, I always drive myself and are limited to ninety minutes. As a single working mom with older kids that can stay home alone, this allows me to utilize my babysitter for longer subsequent dates. Win, Win!!!!
It is amazing what you can tell by a man just by what he choses for the first initial meet and greet. I have experienced the following acceptable meets: the walk the river, the adult beverage bar, and the coffeehouse meet. That brings us to the “You just got your a$$ deleted” meets: the come by my house, the I will come over to your house, and the where can we have sex meet. Deleted, end of story.
On the walk the river meet, we had Allen the Aviator. He was age appropriate, no kids, and retired from the military. Great conversation but was very Type A so I passed on him.
On the coffeehouse meet, we had Fabio the Floor Guy. He was age appropriate, no kids, Romanian with a sexy European accent, very attractive but he eventually wanted kids so I passed on him. Side note: Had I been in the market for a little bedroom fun, he would have been my choice!!
Lastly, the adult beverage bar meet with Coach Carter. He was age appropriate, has kids, employed, very attractive, and I actually liked this guy. We went out on three different times. Dates with him were different, they were natural, playful and FUN. I could be my silly self just so I could hear his adorable laugh and he was happy to oblige. But what did I do? I’ll tell you what I did! I got scared of being rejected and I pushed him away. Yes, I did. I let my fear of rejection control me.
WHY!?!? WHY?!? WHY!?!
With that major slip up, I must go on and the search continues with tonight’s next meet and greet.
I can already hear RuPaul in my head…..
Until Next Time!!!!!